The "Matrix" director lived as a man named Larry until 2002 and she only publicly confirmed her gender reassignment in July while promoting the new Tom Hanks film "Cloud Atlas."
Wachowski, who divorced college sweetheart Thea Bloom in 2002 and went on to marry a second wife, has now revealed she suffered many sleepless nights as she contemplated telling her relatives about her sex change plans.
She tells the New Yorker magazine, "For years, I couldn't even say the words transgendered or transsexual. When I began to admit it to myself, I knew I would eventually have to tell my parents and my brother and my sisters. This fact would inject such terror into me that I would not sleep for days."
Wachowski insists she was overwhelmed by support from family members and now feels happy in her new life, adding, "I chose to change my exterior to bring it closer into alignment with my interior. ... My biggest fears were all about losing my family. Once they accepted me, everything else has been a piece of cake."
However, Wachowski is determined to keep some details of her sex change private: "I know that many people are dying to know if I have a surgically constructed vagina or not, but I prefer to keep this information between my wife and me."